Balance is an Inside Job

This last month has been fast paced.   My book tour is in full swing and I am appearing as a guest on numerous radio shows  and summits to promote the book.  It has been exhilarating and takes a great deal of energy.  One day I sat down and contemplated how to keep balance in my life. Especially, during  a time with so much activity.  During my meditation I had the thought “balance is an inside job.”  After the meditation I spent time journaling and I want to share with you my revelations.

  1. There must be clarity on what is most important to you
  2. There must be a willingness to prioritize
  3. There must a willingness to become still

balance yogaThose three items have become my focus as I move through this summer and fall.  Here are the ways I have put these things into practice.  Perhaps it might assist you in creating more balance in your life.

  1. Connected time with my husband, family/friends, focus and clarity in my work. Time with my husband is non-negotiable. We plan time to carve out “love time” since we are both very busy.  I consistently text, call and email my loved ones to stay connected.  I calendar my work and health life to stay on target.  I connect with my team once a week to stay focused.
  2. Every week I look at my calendar to make sure I am committed in all three areas. It is on my mastermind sheets and I can tick off things as I complete them.  Rest, healthy eating and workouts are a must.
  3. My spiritual practice happens for 1 ½ hours a day. It includes meditation, journaling and reading something that feeds my soul.

I have heard from many of you that you are seeking more balance. What I want you to know is that it will not happen magically.  There are so many things to distract us. You have to be clear and committed to moving inside of you and asking what and how to create harmony and balance.  Please remember …..you deserve a life where harmonic convergence is the norm.

Much love and light,

Cynthia

Do You Know Who You Are?

I have really been in the inquiry of who I am and why am I here on the planet at this time.  I have recently experienced fabulous highs as I grow. I have also felt extreme sadness and frenetic emotions as we, the world, experience more violence and unconscious acts.  I really had to look at my conscious and unconscious beliefs around separation and discord.  I have been forced to take responsibility for my thoughts and actions. I have also come to some amazing revelations that now color my choices moving forward.

I want to share with you my process in hopes that it will encourage you to explore who you are and why you are here.woman_child_mirror

I AM NOT:

  • The familial dysfunction of my childhood.
  • Choices/mistakes that created pain for me or others.
  • Only a woman, African American, or baby boomer.
  • The incessant voices that appear at times telling me to be afraid and judgmental.

I AM:

  • A brilliant expression of grace in form.
  • Here to make a difference in this lifetime.
  • A woman of independent means dedicated to love in action.
  • Here to shine my light and share my gifts.
  • A member of the family called humanity.

I CHOOSE:

  • To bring the best of me into every situation.
  • Remember that every human being wants to be loved, seen and heard.
  • To place my attention and conversations on what I want to grow not what I see that supports separation.
  • To be a voice of inclusion and connectivity.
  • To remember who I am and invite others to do the same.

Wherever you are in this moment, know that you are important.  You are here by divine design and you are a change agent.  Your only job is to remember to stay awake and choose love and kindness.

Much love and light,

Cynthia

 

We Are All Connected

This has been such an incredible time.   So many of us are questioning what it means to be on the planet at this time.  Terrorism, shootings and political showdowns are everywhere in the news.  So much of the information does not support our remembering that we are all part of one human family.  In other words, we are connected.heart-947441_1920

Personally, I have had to do work to feel what I am feeling. The feelings of loss, upset, heartbreak and even anger can flood into my consciousness in a blink of an eye.  I know that feeling is way better than stuffing or running from these emotions.  I also know that even thought I always pray, sometimes it is not enough.  I have to remind myself to remember what I believe.  This is what is on my website.

  • I believe every person and organization has a unique destiny, vision and purpose.
  • I believe that opening to the vision creates a synergy that is powerful and dynamic.
  • I believe that each person and organization has a unique capacity to be of service to the community and world at large.
  • I believe that open-hearted communication builds bridges of understanding and expansion.
  • I believe that the power of creativity and compassion is healing and transformational.
  • I believe that powerful choices create powerful lives

When I tap into what I believe it is clear that I AM the only one responsible for my feelings, behaviors and reactions.  Yes, there are undesirable things happening today. Yes, we don’t all agree. Yes, some people are horribly unconscious.

AND…..there are many loving, kind, generous, caring, forgiving and humble human beings on this planet.  That is why we can have prayers, rituals and vigils all over the world when crisis hits. The question becomes where do we each choose to put our attention and energy.

Personally, I choose love and to place my attention on being the person I know I was meant to be.

Love and Light,
Cynthia

Trust Walk

cynthai_james_greatnessMany years ago I worked with teens at the Agape International Spiritual Center in Los Angeles. We were supporting them in becoming more focused and confident. One of the exercises we used was a trust walk.  One person was blind folded and their partner led them on a walk.  They could not see and had to trust their partner.  This proved to be challenging for most of the students.  In discussions following the exercise, the young people who were blind folded shared about not feeling safe.  They didn't want to give control of their safety to another and there was little trust that the partner would take care of them.  The ones leading were afraid that they might not lead well and their partner would get hurt.  The interesting thing is that each person could “feel” the fear in the other and that accelerated their own discomfort.

 

That exercise and those conversations have stayed with me all this time.  Most of my clients want to work on TRUST.  They don’t trust others and many of them lack self-trust in varying degrees.  The definition of trust is: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.  That sounds simple right?  However, the words that stick out to me are “firm belief”.  As a child my firm belief was that I was not safe and violence was the norm. I was hyper-vigilant and scared most of the time.

 

It took many years for me to learn to trust myself and others.  Here are some tools that might support you in a TRUST WALK with yourself.

 

  1. Check the perception lens that life is viewed through. If you are looking at life through the field of fear, doubt and mistrust - that is what you will create.
  2. Learn to access and listen to your intuition. Are you following your “gut instincts” or wanting others to make decisions for you?  You have a powerful inner knowing.  Accessing it, listening to it and trusting it take practice.
  3. Pause if there is any doubt in the direction you are going. We are living in an accelerated time and want to get things done now.  The challenge is that decisions made in haste can create chaos and confusion.  Take time to do research, create a plan and use forward thinking to anchor your choices.
  4. Make sure people DO what they SAY. Trust is built over time and people consistently showing up in authentic and honest ways creates a foundation of honor and respect.

 

You are the most important person in your life and you are brilliant.  Take time to learn to trust yourself and you will attract trustworthy people. You will feel safer, more joyous and have more clarity.

 

I trust that you are on an amazing journey of fulfillment and expansion.

Love and light,

Rev Cynthia James

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